|To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”|
|Lewis B. Smedes|
There are a million reasons to be angry these days. Just open the newspaper and you will find all the ammunition you need to label yourself the victim. Every day we end up paying more than we think we should for the things we need because of those big companies making big profits. We are always inconvenienced by some stupid rule or regulation that was designed to cause us grief. Someone, somewhere during day will cut us off in traffic, jump ahead of us in line, close a door in our face, or take the last good batch of grapes on the produce counter. Enough to push you over the edge, doncha’ think? Then there is always the more personal betrayal by a friend or family member, deceitful boss or coworker, and maybe even the thug that stole your wallet! Man! How’s a guy supposed live around here?
Forgiveness is one of the major components of Christianity. But have we ever stopped to wonder… why? Most of us probably think,” because that is what Jesus taught”, or, “because it’s the right thing to do!” Still some may figure it is compassion for the target of our wrath.
Well, I don’t think it is any of the above! Forgiveness is freedom. Forgiveness is about allowing ourselves to live without giving away peace of mind to strangers that do not know you gave it to them. Forgiveness is happiness itself. Jesus taught us to turn the other cheek. Jesus also taught us to; “Judge not lest ye be judged” which is where the divine truth of forgiveness is born.
God created human kind in order to experience the unlimited diversity of “being” that results from countless choices between relative conditions. We, (and ultimately God) appreciated calm, in contrast of chaos. We enjoy being respected, contrary to being disrespected, and so on. All things that occur, give meaning to the contrasting condition, and therefore are all components of our journey toward inner peace. When we judge actions or conditions as “BAD” and determine that they were unjustly directed toward us, we end up in a state of resentment that prevents any measure of peace from existing in our hearts. Ninety nine percent of the time, the target of our despair has no idea about, or at least is unaffected by, our state of mind. We become victims of our own judgment. This is what is meant by; “Judge not lest ye be judged” That lesson does not warn us to refrain from action as others will take similar action in return. It means we are literally “spitting into the wind”, and it will land right in our own face.
If we can find our way to place where we can understand that all that “is”, simply is, and accept it as a component of our journey toward Grace, we can refuse to allow prevailing conditions to rob us of the present moment joy. If we forget about the actions and situations that we initially “Judge” as unacceptable, and just notice them, then (Fuggedah Bout It) we will find that there is much less anger and resentment in our hearts. POSITIVELY SPEAKING, “fuggedah bout it” is great advice.
The Journey IS the Destination