Kicking the can down the road- The art of procrastination

In most instances, procrastination is the killer of dreams. and a major component of failure. There is however at least ONE situation where I can say that creative procrastination is the underlying factor in success.

In 1985 when I was 26 years old my life was a mess. People who knew me thought I was bright. Family, teachers and employers said I had promise and potential. I was a fall down drunk, with low self esteem, hell bent on destruction in complete denial. I was killing myself, sabotaging opportunities and obliterating relationships with family and friends. This saga began at the ripe old age of 12/13.

A few legal problems and court mandated counseling resulted in extreme pressure for me to attend 12 step recovery meetings for my alcoholism and drug use. I had lost my drivers license, job, place of residence, friends and was facing the potential loss of my freedom and future, so I reluctantly acquiesced with a cynical arrogance and false sense of superiority. My first few attempts were futile since I only had pity for the poor fools that were baring their souls, whining about the bad choices the made and drinking horrible coffee with a strange sense of gratitude.

It was March 9th of that year when a meeting I attended blasted through the concrete facade I had erected allowing to cold light of truth to permeate my being. The overwhelming dread that enveloped me was a level of fear I had previously never experienced. All at once I KNEW I was destined to die by my own choices and the only mercy would have been if it was sooner rather than later.

The fools that I had previously had pity and disdain for all came to my side with encouraging words of hope. Naturally I thanked them, but inside KNEW there was no way I would live my ENTIRE LIFE without ever drinking or using a drug again. That would be impossible and any attempt would be an exercise in futility so why kid myself. The cavalcade of meetings and diverse mix of stories I had heard up to that point had finally convinced me that one fact was undeniable and that was that I would never be able function in life if I drank. Knowing that any attempt would be short lived, I was panic stricken.

The elders and newbies alike all kept assuring me that I did not have think about life without drinking, just commit to today and let tomorrow take care of itself when it got there. That seemed reasonable, so I gave it a shot. When I hit the 90 day mark, my panic began to wane, and a bit of comfort and sense of calm crept in. In the back of mind, since I was working this deal 1 day at a time, I still KNEW that someday I would drink again. I began kicking that can down the road. I told myself, I would revisit my desire to drink after I was sober for 1 year.

Once I received the above coin, I thought to myslef that 3 years of this life would be tolerable. You see in 1988 I would turn 30. So that would be a good time to get back to living as a ” Regular Person”

March 9 2020
  • After that I chose to kick the can to 5 years, 1990
  • Then I kicked it to 1998 (lucky 13 years) because I would be 40 years old and that would be a good time to drink again, then
  • Of course Y2K 2000, what better time to pick up a nice aged single malt, 15 years sober
  • Then age 50 seemed to be a good target. I would be 23 years sober 2008
  • My next spot for the can was my 30th anniversary. 30 YEARS WITHOUT A DRINK IS MORE THAN ANYONE CAN BARE. 2015 AT AGE 56
  • Next, I figured at 60, I have proven myself to be a responsible adult, raised my kids, what’s to lose now? That was 33 years sober 2018.
  • Here I sit approaching 62 years old, 2 days away from my 35th anniversary without a drink or a drug of any kind

In two days, I will ad the 35 coin to my group. I bought a nice frame that will hold 50 that I can mount them and hang them on the wall. 35 years of tossing them in a drawer has been enough.

They say all good things will come in time. You know whats funny; I’m tired of kicking that beat up can. I believe I am the point where I can say with confidence:

“I’m done drinking, I gave it up”!

So I guess there is a time where procrastination is a real benefit.

One Day at a Time: But hey, the framed wall case only holds 50 coins. In 2035 I’ll be 87 years old then. Hmm, something to think about!

The Journey IS the DESTINATION.

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The Slanted Planter

It Looks like we are in for an early riding season here in New England. Yippee!  I’ll bet there are many that have been riding for weeks now. I need it just a bit warmer though. I will be watching the weather, checking my schedule and prepping my Bike. In a real short while I will be hitting the curves in NW CT then up to the Adirondacks. I can’t wait. I bet you can’t either.

Did you see what just happened: I thought about riding, then wrote about it, then I will plan, and it will happen. There is no way for me to instantly go from working at my desk to the roads. There had to be a thought first. Whenever there is car or bike show, someone had to think about having it. Thinking alone does not bring it about. They had to think a lot, then act. The more thought there is about something, the likelier it is to happen. Brief passing thoughts do not actually cause experience. Sustained thought with conviction is usually required. The thought is the seed that is planted. Sustained thought, planning, involving others, discussing and acting is the nurturing that unfolds from the thought. Make no mistake though, the thought was the birth of what ultimately becomes reality.

This process is the immutable design of life. All experience, situation, occurrence, tangible item, service or interaction was predicated by thought. Without the thought being impregnated from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind, there is NO THING.What we think about expands. Our thoughts are the seeds we plant for our future to grow. When we think too much about what we DO NOT WANT, we are planting seeds with a negative slant on them. Avoid the temptation to nurture such thoughts.

Thought is the seed of life

Thinking is the farmer.

This is exactly why I continue to share a narrative of POSITIVE THINKING. The life we see unfold before our eyes is direct result of the thoughts we entertain. Positive thoughts will create positive experiences and so too will the opposite. The good news is that we have control over what we think. Our conscious mind, (the thoughts we hear in our head in cognitive verbiage) is exposed to the external world and acts as a filter for our subconscious mind; (place where our vibration adjusts and impacts our world, controls our heart, lungs, digestion and all functions, and creates our experiences). What we focus on, nurture, and keep alive, enters the factory of creation. What we only briefly give thought, passes by. Think of it like this:

If we pass our hand over an open flame quickly; we feel nothing. If we move slowly, we feel the heat. When we hesitate and keep our hand there, we get burned. If our hand just sits there, it will be destroyed. This means a brief negative thought that enters our conscious mind will do no harm. The longer we allow it to ruminate, the greater the devastation it will do to our lives

In 2006 the Pastor of a small Midwest church challenged his congregation to think only positive thoughts for 21 days. He instructed them to refrain from complaint and criticism, and all negative speech and thought. They were all given purple bracelets and instructed to move the bracelet whenever they catch themselves nurturing negativity. The goal, (and promise) was 21 days of positivity would transform their lives. He was on every talk show and made the speaking circuit for years. His program is still alive and growing. “A Complaint Free World”

Everywhere we look we will see negativity. Yes, they say the Corona Virus will kill us all. Ok the Market has temporarily tanked, yada, yada. None of it needs to impact us if we do not allow its seed to hit the fertile ground of our subconscious growing field. With 7.7 billion minds on this planet, we are bound to run into negativity. We need to treat it like the flame. Just pass right over it.

Millions of us are very happy with the lives we live. Millions are disappointed, and millions are in despair. Most do not understand that they themselves are planting the seed to what is going to sprout tomorrow. Sure, the crap is out there. We do not want to pick it up and plant it. Sometimes we think talking about the garbage, sharing it, complaining about and warning others will make it go away. That is slanted planting. That thinking is like finding the seed of what you want to grow, pushing it aside and planting weeds in its place.You can drill backwards on your life, or the life of those you know intimately and see that those that have positive experiences, as well as the ones that struggle, have always spoken in the related manner and entertained the correlative thought. Positive thoughts (seeds) will produce positive experiences. Negative seeds are killers. Unfortunately, people will get sick, people will die, fortunes will be lost, and tragedies will happen. The positive farmer will make lemonade from those lemons while the slanted planter will allow such situations to destroy them.

We have more control than we realize. Everything we know was a thought before it had an affect on us and the world. I urge you to try to embrace Will Bowens idea of 21 days with no negativity. If that seems too long, Emmet Fox has a little book called the 7 Day Mental Diet that challenges the same for 1 week.

Many of us need things to change. We diet, exercise, seek to change jobs, relationships and work on our finances, to no avail. These things will not change externally until we change the quality of thoughts that predicate them. Imagine planting seeds for poison ivy, then once it starts to sprout, pluck the leaves and try to glue on roses. Seems quite foolish to entertain doesn’t it? That is what we do when we alter our actions while still planting slanted seeds.

BETTER THOUGHTS PRODUCE BETTER LIVES

Don’t be a Slanted Planter

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2020 means clarity of sight

When you ride a motorcycle, it is important to be aware of your surroundings, but it crucial to know what is in front of you, or on the sides. What is behind you is not as critical for safety. Most motorcycle mirrors are tiny. We only really need mirrors for changing lanes on the highway.

We are in a new year. The year is 2020. 2020 is also the vision measurement that indicates complete clarity.  I wonder if that is an omen, or a sign. Well, I’m going to take it as one. This year is going to be dedicated to clarity of vision, laser focus and looking only at was is ahead.

Over the years I have been blessed to understand that any time spent with my mind focused on what is behind me will rob me of the focus I need in the present to plot my course forward. Another interesting fact about the past is that it no longer exists. All we have from the past is a memory. That is a thought. The tangible reality is the present moment. We can see clearly when we are looking at the world as it is unfolding. In order to have 2020 vison about what we are creating, attracting and offering to this life, we have to focus on the moment we are in.

All of our errors and missteps, as well as our triumphs and successes of the past were lessons and exercises to prepare us to live this moment.

When you look at life through the eyes of the connected Spirit, you can make miracles real. You will be RealEYEsing Life. To take a thought and manifest it into a significant component of this Universe, we all need to RealEYEs Life.

There is nothing we can do in the past. We can prepare for the future, but right now, we can’t act in the future. The only thing that is ever real is right now. When we stay focused on right now we will have 2020 vision.

The past is gone, learn from it and bury it. The future is what we act now to create. Open your eyes to the truth that comes from within and see clearly for 2020.

Happy New Year

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The nerve to SERVE

Take the express train to joy and peace by using your talent to make a difference. Serving the common good will raise our positive vibration bringing us closer to attracting conditions aligned with our highest good.

The grandest version of the greatest vision we could imagine of ourselves is waiting to appear.

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Christmas! What’s it all about?

Is Christmas about getting a new sound system for your bike from Santa? Maybe it is about the giving part like they say?

So then, it’s about getting your spouse to get you a new sound system for your bike because they will appreciate the joy of giving. Yeah, that’s it! Oh wait. The religious folk will say it is about the birth of The Savior. There you go. But what where we saved from? I know, we were saved from not knowing about the joy of giving a new sound system for a bike. Perhaps Christmas is about all of the above. I think that Christmas is purely a celebration of life. How’s that?

For thousands of years man kind has pondered the meaning of life. With the advent of the transcendental movement of the sixties, it became popular to “Find yourself”. That would be a journey of self-discovery to determine the meaning of life. How is it we that live are ignorant of the meaning of life? I guess it is a seriously deep philosophical quandary to attempt to unravel so many don’t bother. It’s better to be ignorant and miserable than to seek enlightenment and end up frustrated? Don’t ya think?

I may be a simple man, but somewhere along the line it just became clear to me. Life is all about the process of creation with the intent to produce, share and embrace joy! What else could it be?

There is an omnipotent awareness that is at the core of all that is, made of pure energy. (We call it God). In the absence of “anything”, God has no experience. Hence no joy. In order for God to know the most magnificent heights of potential joy, God needed to set in motion “Creation”. This creation would 1st be exposed to joyless experience, and endeavor to alter conditions until joy was felt.  There of course needed to be an ever increasing (exponential) set of diverse conditions to ensure the unlimited combination of possibilities, so God replicated itself in a schizophrenic continuum, all ignorant of their true nature and unaware of the connection of all being ONE. This would ensure all possible scenarios would manifest allowing for joyless conditions to exist as the catalyst for creation of joy. Our thoughts and feelings generate a vibrational frequency into the energy field that produces matter and experience. The greatest joy is achieved when the creative act unites the creators in a collaborative endeavor of mutual benefit. These events are known as service, giving, contributing to the common good etc. The bad, selfish scrap borne of fear and evil, cause us to come together and create conditions of unity that result in joy. Each relies upon the other to exist. It is all part of the magnificent plan. The exponential unfolding of the Universe (One-Song).

Prior to the 1st Christmas, man knew of a creator, and feared it. The common belief was that this unseen force created the world to have dominion over it as it served its needs. (not too far off). The birth of Christ, (The Savior) set in motion a love for the creator, mankind itself, and life. The message became one of unity, forgiveness, patience, love and yes, JOY as the core motivating factor of life.

 

So, Christmas was the birth a a new age of realizing life as a JOYFUL collaboration of united souls as opposed to a competitive undertaking of self-preservation and seeking the favor of a tyrannical deity.

Hence the song” Joy to the world”

 So go get that sound system or new robot vacuum. Life is about JOY and Christmas was the birth of that perspective on life. Soak it in, perhaps it will stick.

Merry Christmas

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Abundance

All you have to do is log in to Facebook, or check your email and you will find there is no shortage of opportunities being presented to you that are guaranteed to make you a billionaire in 3 easy steps you can master in less than 2 months. They usually involve a 15-20-minute video wrought with examples of how difficult life is, and how easily we can transform ours, followed by 30-40 personal stories of those that have succeeded at this endeavor. They are always on their boat. These videos and programs sometimes make me feel stupid about not being insanely wealthy, and a fear-filled cowardly moron for not trying. They sometimes cost $ 497, cut down to $197, then reduced to $47 if you act right away, or $7-8K all determined by whether we get a few videos or have someone “coach” us for few months. That’s another thing, there seems to be more “Life Coaches” around than there are people to fix our washing machines. Years ago, those folks were known as “know it all’s”. I can’t imagine needing someone to coach me on how to live my life. There must be a market though, or there would not be so many of them. (If you build it, they will come).

My passion is helping people take control of their and realize they are in the driver’s seat and can create whatever they have the capacity to believe. Being that I am not filthy rich, I would never portend to claim I can help make you rich. As for these programs; I do believe they are all genuine, and if followed to the tee, with commitment, confidence and unwavering determination, the claims could be genuine. Probably 1 out of 10,000 make any real $$, with 1 in 100,000 get rich, but that is not the fault of the program, it all lies with the capacity of the individual to truly believe and commit. Most of these programs claim that we are wired to remain in the economic state we were raised in due to “Paradigms, limiting beliefs and fear. I agree! I also agree that transcending these preprogramed limits is never easy and battling our fear even more debilitating to undertake.

Insomuch as my article, FB page & blog are all quasi motivational/inspirational, personal development themed, I should probably be more encouraging. My personal philosophy over the years has shown me that money for moneys sake is a merry go round that never ends. To begin with, any real strong desire for $$ is originated from the fear of not having enough. I know firsthand that we cannot create positive results from a place of fear. We MAY attract an abundance of $$, but it never ends up being enough. We end up chasing it for our entire lives, and never actually arriving anywhere that pleases us.

I believe more in serving! Making a difference, having an impact, elevating others and improving situations is what I aspire to do, and to share that philosophy of personal development is my goal. I also believe, the greater the service we provide to the common good, the more substantial the reward we will enjoy. I just don’t advocate putting the reward as the goal.

For me; being the source of someone’s joy, peace, success, enlightenment and empowerment is the goal. For a guy with aspirations of perhaps doing some motivational speaking, I should probably get in line with the abundance gurus, but it just feels disingenuous to me to advocate for something I am not aligned with. Don’t get me wrong, a few “Mil” (0) debt, and never ending free time would certainly be terrific, but I am NOT WILL to sacrifice time with my family, relaxation, my peace, and whatever $$ I presently have to get there. Way too many people have spent fortunes and decades in the pursuit of wealth, only to find when they finally get it, they have compromised most of their life to do so, and will not get the time, relationships and missed moments back. I wrote all about this in my book: 1st Things 1st: My Journey with the Law of Attraction, available on Amazon, with links on my FB page & Blog. Goal setting is important, and so are desires and dreams. I would only suggest that when are goals are directed toward using our talents to serve the Universe, the $$ will take care of itself. When we aim to $$ alone, at any cost, the result is the $$ we end up with does not hold the value we sought. Truth be told, we are all looking for the same thing: Happiness & Joy!

 True joy is only found in positive connections with others. Then once we are engulfed in Joy, and shrouded in Grace, the abundance, prosperity, wealth and riches that SERVE OUR HIGHEST GOOD, will come effortlessly.

Today I am grateful for this meager audience, and it is my greatest desire that SOMETHING I wrote made a difference for you!

Thanks a million.

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CONNECTION INSPECTION

This season, (the time after the snow melts and we can comfortably venture outside in New England) has been wrought with events, challenges, responsibilities, and weekend chores for me. More so than previous years, and most of my distractions are the weekend chores. I have not gotten the bike out much (once) to my disappointment. That makes it difficult to write anything about life that would relate to my exploits on the road, but I will give it a shot.

We all know that there are considerate people and not-so considerate people in the world. Those of us with insight understand that the former creates and spreads joy, while the latter are the antithesis of peace and contentment. I believe anyone whose actions are detrimental to the peace of this life must not be doing so intentionally but lack the understanding of how we impact each other’s lives and experiences. These people are not BAD, just uninformed. I will attempt to explain:

All of us that are enthusiastic about being out on the road in whatever type of vehicle we are passionate about, understand the interstate highway system, state and county roads, and back road systems of our country. While I84 does not intersect with I95, you can get to it through a network of connected highways and roads. It may appear that they are separate roads, but in-fact; they are connected. From whatever road you happen to be on right now, you can get to any other road in this country somehow (except in Maine, “you can’t get there from here”). Without having to pack up your ride and ship it. The roads are all connected.

The same is true for all of physical, mental, and spiritual life: EVERYTHING IS CONNECTED! There are just those that do not understand that. All of physical existence is nothing more or less than energy in motion. What gives the appearance of separation is that energy of different objects is vibrating at different speeds, but it is all the same energy. For instance, when you walk into a house where someone is cooking with garlic; they may be in the kitchen, and you the foyer, yet you olfactory senses detect the garlic. That is because the air is all connected, and the proximity is such that there are not enough conflicting elements to disguise the presence of the garlic. Garlic is a solid object, about 100 feet away, and you are aware of the gaseous existence of it in your experience. That is the connection.

Everything in life is connected. To varying degrees, what I do in Naugatuck today can have a ripple effect on a cheetah in the Serengeti. If you toss a bottle out of the window of your car, a visiting dignitary from Belgium could trip on it and fall, ending up in the Hospital. This would cause (him, her) to miss an important meeting that could have secured funding to save an endangered breed of spiders that could have eaten all of the mosquito’s carrying a deadly virus, thus causing thousands of deaths in Europe that summer. A bottle toss could do that!

 I pass gas in the hall; you smell it in the living room. I drive erratically, traffic backs up for miles, you miss an interview and don’t get the job. Your child does not get e medical treatment she needs and suffers.

There is always a way to get there from here. All rods are connected. What we do: MATTERS!

 It is not just about being polite or considerate that I write this. Being nice is not a touchy-feely thing. It is imperative that we all understand that ALL THINGS ARE CONNECTED! The quality of life on this rock requires we all understand how we affect one another.

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